Friday, August 29, 2003

Advice Please Part 2

Here is partly of what some have said. Katsing4god:Mary, I think that you are free to have your momentos out and in your house all the time, but while your mom and her new husband are visiting it would be a nice gesture to put those pictures away.  As soon as they leave you can bring them out again to remind you of your dad, think of it this way, is it more important to honor the dead, or the feelings of a living person?  I don't see putting this stuff away (and remember it will all burn in the end)   Stucker:i wouldnt move them those are pics of your father and he should understand and he knows your mom was married before. My2DivaGirls: I would not under any circumstances take any of the stuff down!!  My dad died 7 years ago and my mom remarried in June and I still have everything of my dads up and it will remain that way forever!!!  It is out of respect and the love you had for your dad. Kyjess:i think it would be nice to maybe keep a few keep sakes out, but maybe put up the ones of their anversery away.JilliansMom:I, personally, wouldn't take it down.  The "shrine" is not because he was your mother's first husband....it is because he was YOUR father!  So, I would be as nice as you possibly can to the new guy and give him all sorts of respect....but I wouldn't take anything down.  Your Dad was a huge part of your Mom's life and the new hubby needs to deal with that....if not, its HIS issue.  INJESUS24HRS:I just asked my Dad the question that you asked us and he pointed out some good things1.you never met him until the wedding day2.That is your house.3.This man has a problem.4.When my Dad remarried we had pictures of my Mom and the wedding day in the living room and never took it down the time she was with us.
Thanks ladies for your advice.

1 comment:

  1. I DEFINATELY WOULD NOT TAKE IT DOWN. HE WAS YOUR DAD.
    JOHN KNEW ABOUT YOUR DAD WHEN YOUR MOM MARRIEDHIM.
    THAT IS YOUR MEMORIES, ALL YOU HAVE LEFT OF YOUR DAD.
    I DAY LEAVEMUP
    HELEN

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