Maybe I should have a disclaimer? *My views are my own*

That post about porn is still brewing and when the time is right it will come to be.  But today it seems that I am inspired to write on something elese.  It seems to be a reacuring theme lately and I must get it out.  As my disclaimer says, My views are my own, take them as you will, but I try and only speak Truth and if the truth hurts, that is on you not me.

Recently a friend asked what I thought about a certain situation, she asked it in a hypthical maner but you know when any one does that they are realy talking about themselves. But I answered honestly and what I believed God's take would be on the situation. Apperntly she didnt like the answer I gave and took it as a personal attack on her and that I was judging her.  It hurts me back to think that she would think I would personaly want to hurt her and judge her, for just telling the Truth.  Is it more loving to tell a lie, or the truth?  I saw what others put down and it just seemed like they was pandoring her, giving gib answers, nothing of any value but follow your heart and be happy.  This was a neg experance and a total contrast from a separte conversation I had with some one from my prayer group who asked basicly THE SAME Question. She heard me, she thanked me and told me that was just what she needed to hear, that God was dealing with her on that issue and what I had said just confirmed to her what he was trying to tell her along.

In a nutshell and the heart of the matter is the question Should ppl live together who are not married.  I know what the world has to say and what they think, but I dont live by the World's standards, I live by God's and if you are a professing believer, that should be your heart's disire also. It is not like I live in a fanasy world either, and I know his ways may seem hard to some but if you Trust him, you know if you follow his ways you will be blessed and taken care of no matter what.

Marrage is to be sacred and holy, a commitmet between you, your partner and God. It is not just some peice of paper, if you look at it that way, dont get married to that person, but dont expect to be blessed either. Your body if you are a believer, is also to be Holy and sacred because you have the HolySpirit living with in you. Sex is an expression of love, a gift from God to be shared with your husband or wife and should be reserved for the marrage bed.  When you have sex with some one you become connected with them in some way, you take and give a piece of them and yourself and there is an exchange, not just a physical one but an emontinal and spirutal. God knew all that could happen when there is not a commitmet for a life time involed when sex happens, and all the problems and hurts.  He wants to keep us from those, protect us, that is what all his comanments and ways are about, protecting you, not to hold you back from being happy or enjoying your life.  God is the father who loves his children, like we love our children we set up rules for them to follow, and most of the time those rules are to protect our kids. Dont cross the street with out holding hands, look bothways or else you may be hit by a car. ya know.  When we live out of God's will for our lives we leave ourselves open to attacks and blessings are held back. Just like when our children don't follow the rules, they leave themselves open to getting hurt. That doesnt mean you will go to hell, we still love our children even if they make a mistake, and your heart is only for God to judge, not me.

For the Christian you are to be an example, a light to the World. If you are living in that kind of situation, what will others think?  "It's Ok for them so its ok for us or see, they are hypcits, say one thing and live another"  If you are living in that situation may I suggest you separtate til you are ready to get married, you will honor God and yourselves and will be blessed.

Psalms 128:1 <<A Song of degrees.>> Blessed [is] every one that feareth the LORD; that walketh in his ways.