Friday, December 5, 2008

A question for Ladies over 30 and PMS

I'm 31 going on 32 (Jan 19.. better remember if you love me lol). Yes I know I don't look it.. thanks but I recognize my body is getting older and women's hormone levels change and what not. My last two cycles I have had the most outrageous case of PMS that I can ever remember having. It may partly be due to stress, cuz Lord knows I have been under so much of it lately but I am wondering if this also has something to do with my age. Normally I don't keep track and my period comes and goes with out much incident.. sometimes I feel what I call the ick's just before but hardly ever have cramps or the over the top emotions.. well yes always have had the chocolate cravings but other than that Aunt Flow's visits are not that disruptive.

Last month and this month I have been a raving B*tch. So angry at the world and can't control it. Cry fits like you wouldn't believe and ohhhhhh the pain.. I just want to crawl in a hole and die the week before and of. This is not normal for me what so ever. I almost want to feel sorry for the people in my life (if they didn't piss me off so much and almost always deserve the tirade) and I have had to do some apologizing for my harshness.

Also just before this period I had the biggest baby craving. Everywhere I went they were there or some one I knew was preggers. I would sooooooo love to have another baby and find it unfair that I am denied one when others who don't even really want one are having them or literally throwing them away or killing them. I cried my eyes out to my hubby over it... the ass said oh its just your time clock ticking. Seriously I don't think that is it.. I just know if he wouldn't of gotten fixed we would have at least two more children right now.. and the thing is I MISS THEM. Is that crazy???????!

Ok.. so ladies who are over 30.. is this normal??? Did your cycle and PMS change this drastically? Is this an age thing or am I going insane?? I have no reference in my family.. my mom has always had difficulties and has had a hysterectomy so she really can't tell me. Any input or comments will be valued and appreciated.

I do know that for my Birthday I am treating myself to that longgggggggggg over due (tisk i know its been almost 7yrs) women's health exam.


  1. Firstly, you are just a spring chicken, oh to be your age again lol. Yes, you do change with the years, at least I did. Do you know what, that craving never goes away, the one for babies or perhaps it is just me. I am sixty five and I often long for another child. Maybe it is because I still mourn the one I lost, I do not know. But I have friends my age who tell me they still feel broody from time to time.

  2. You miss THEM, because you love them. And that is okay.

    I would definitely get that much needed preventative appointment with your obgyn (though I don't have much room to talk, I hate going). There may be many different options for you to consider. Our bodies do change as we continue to grow older (I'm 33 now), and our doctors aren't just baby doctors... they know what we are going through.

    Take care, I haven't heard from you in while. Hope all is well!


  3. Mary! I've missed you so much! As for your questions, I don't really know, except after I truned 40, I have been in so many dark moods- but I thought maybe it was a midlife crisis or something. I've always had the mood swings from PMS DMS and AMS (before, during and after!) I feel so horrible because I know my tantrums are WRONG- but I can't help them! Lately though, it does feel somewhat like my insides are comming out- and cramps are a little worse sometimes than they used to be. I hope this doesn't scare you off though about getting older! We'll keep each other in prayers and I'm here any time you ant to rant ;-) God Bless! Love Carolyn

  4. My sister Linda used to have PMS something terrible, mood swings, oh, but I never did, so it seemed kind of an inherited thing for her that I did not get. But I did have intense baby cravings that resulted in having a baby at 42, and for about 11 years between my second son and first daughter I was looking for a father to be, and rejected any BFs who had a vasectomy or just did not want any kids at an older age. I tell you, a willing father was hard to find, and he was not willing once the children were born, so I ended up raising them alone, but I was so satisfied with having them, that I would have done anything just to get them. The daughter just graduated from college yesterday for the second time, and the youngest son I raised completely alone was there, kidding around with her kids. I enjoyed my kids so much! So I think a kid wanting loving woman is not unusual. but I hope you will hang in there with your uterus and hope for the PMS to calm down. My sister did We both did and the three sisters who got hysterectomies are worse off in many ways I think. It's not good to mess with Mother nature. I think it is best just to try to ride the wild dark moods through. They re trying to tell you something, and you have much to look forward to. To me menopause was blessed, too, because it was so calming, again Mother nature is magical if you let her work. And I bled for two years straight but fought off surgeons and nurses and sisters who tried to get me under the knife. I am so glad that I trusted my body. Gerry

  5. Talk to your Dr. about this, you could have a more severe form of PMS. I did and was put on a low dose of meds for two weeks before my period, of course I'm on them full time now for another reason, but talk to your Dr. I know how awful it is. Linda