Thought for Today
"Learn to say no; it will be of more use to you than to be able to read Latin." - Charles H. Spurgeon
I need to mark another milestone in our family life... *deep heavy sigh* We kinda had "THE TALK" aka " The Birds & The Bees Talk" with our 12yrd son. I feel gross just typing about it... but it is done. Zane missed that part of 5th grade last year because he was on a trip with his dad to Vegas.. lol that sounds funny but it was an innocent trip to visit Josh's mom. Anyway.. so the boy was in the dark about the biological details of just how a baby is conceived.
It wasn't planned..we were having a casual night watching t.v. in the living room.. the little ones had already gone to bed and Annie was in the dining room finishing her homework. The subject came up because we were talking about a trailer for a movie called Children Of Men. Zane had brought it up.. he had seen the trailer when he went to see a movie with one of his friends and he was explaining the premises of what the movie was about. I giggled at him and out of the blue asked " do you even know how babies are conceived??" He looked at me and flat out said no. I looked at Josh and Josh looked at me as we were both trying to think of a non graphic way of explaining it to him.. but really there is no way to do it with out the specifics. I encouraged Josh to tell him.. I was to tounge tied. Josh started to tell him where sperm comes from and how women have eggs.. and how eggs and sperm come together.. how sex feels really good, God created it for husbands and wives to enjoy together, I couldn't take it.. I had to put my fingers in my ear and sing "nannnananananana" *sigh* I am too young to be having to explain or listen to an explanation of this to my baby boy. But I got over it.. because sadly.. he is not my baby boy anymore.. he is entering pueberty and NEEDS to know this information. All the signs are there. I have tried to ignore the morning wood and hope that Josh would pull him aside and tell him how to um.. um.. well get rid of it or hide it.. or at least tell him not walk around the house in small shorts when he has it. And the zits are starting to crop up.. I think he has sensitive skin and with or family history of bad acne he needsto start taking care of his skin from the get go.
So we tried to in a mature and informative way and injecting our values, tell him that as long as he keeps his penis away from virginas there will be no babies.
Josh went into greater detail and I am not inclined to relive those moments but I have got to say that it was a whole hell of alot more information then I got from my own mother who said "when you are ready we will get you on the pill"
I am sure we will revisit the subject with him again and as long as it is in small dosessI think I can get threw it. Ohh funn.. the teen years have officially started!!
Why is it called The Birds and The Bees??? I was trying to think of how to apply those analogies to the conversations.. birds have eggs? bees pollinate flowers?? Those are two separate species... shhhhhheeshhh.. that would be fun to fumble out and probably very confusing to the poor kid getting the speech.