Friday, May 12, 2006

Mother's Day. . . Pleasant or Painful?

Mother's Day is bitter and sweet for me.. I know I will have much joy with my children who are here with me but I will always remember the one I carelessly let go.  I dedicate this post to anyone who may be hurting over a loss this Mother's day and also to say... I LOVE YOU BEAUTIFUL AND MISS YOU EVERY DAY.. 


I receive a monthly news letter from Silent No More Awareness and I wanted to share some of the thoughts in it from this month's with you all bellow.  

Mother's Day. . . Pleasant or Painful?

When you think of Mother's Day, what comes to mind? Flowers? Candy? A special brunch at her favorite place? Just the right card that says exactly how you feel?  Or, have you sometimes searched for a Mother's Day card and never found one that seemed completely appropriate?
For many of us, Mother's Day brings special thoughts of a loving mom:

She is always there when we need her
She meets our physical and emotional needs
She nurtures, inspires and encourages
She is our role model; we want to be just like her!

We have warm, pleasant feelings when we think of mother.  That is what God wants for us: "..." a mother caring for her little children"      I Thessalonians. 2:7
For others, thinking of mother brings hurt and pain. Maybe....

Your mother left, or otherwise abandoned you
She abused you or allowed someone else to hurt you
She put her needs first and allowed your needs to go unmet 

Some of our mothers have failed us and we sometimes carry that hurt in the form of anger, bitterness and unforgiveness.  God never intended for us to be hurt by our mothers. He wants us to forgive, just as he forgives us. "Forgive and you will be forgiven." Luke 6:37c
And many others experience profound grief and sorrow when reminded of Mother's Day:

A mother who has lost a child to death
A mother who has lost a child to addictions
A mother who has lost a relationship with her child
A mother who has lost custody of her children
A mother who has placed a child for adoption
A woman who has chosen abortion
A woman who has suffered a miscarriage
A woman who cannot conceive or carry a child
A woman whose mother has died

God knows of our hurt, pain and sorrow. He wants to bring you comfort today:  "As a mother comforts her children, so I will comfort you." Isaiah 66:13
So, celebrate this Mother's Day by knowing that you have a heavenly parent (God) who loves you! Unconditionally, completely and eternally; and if you trust in Him, this is His promise: "never will I leave you, never will I forsake you"  Hebrews 13:5

Please receive God's love for you deep into your heart. He loves you with an everlasting love and so do we.


  1. Wonderful entry. Congratulations on being Guest Editor.  Have a wonderful Mother's Day although you have bitter sweet memories.

  2. For me its frustration of knowing my Mom refuses to get help for the alzhiemers she is in big time denial of and knowing that becuase she wont get the help now she needs she coud postpone for twenty years what will happen in as little as five.

  3. Funny, but even after becoming a mom, Mother's Day to me is all about my own mother.  I seem almost surprised when the kids get me something and truthfully wouldn't mind if they didn't get me a thing.  

    It's important to honor mothers, but I have mixed feelings.  Because they set aside a certain "day" to do it, I feel like it magnifies all of my shortcomings in being a good daughter to my mom on the other 364 days a year.  Maybe that's because now as my mom is 84 years old I see her life coming to an end and I look back at how much I didn't do, how sometimes doing things for her was a chore and not done with much joy or love.  She never complained or made me feel guilty like I hear a lot of people say their moms do.

    My thoughts are definitely with those you mentioned in your wonderful entry, Mary.  

    And BIG congratulations on being named Guest Editor!  


  4. I'm sure you touched a lot of people with your entry today.  We are so blessed to have a God who loves us so much that He meets each of exactly where we are and as imperfectly as we are.  Happy Mother's Day to you, too!

  5. Beautiful entry. and how true it is. May we all have peace on this mothers day no matter what circumstances it maybe.


  6. what a  beautiful entry. Thank you for posting it!
    XO lisa

  7. Sometimes when I think of these made up holidays that were more or less forced on us, and then think of the many who don't have the perfect Hallmark experience, I wish they had never seen the light of day.  But you are right, Our Heavenly Father will Mother us, be our Brother, our Friend, whatever He knows our heart needs.  ;o)  -  Barbara

  8. Very nice entry dear! Enjoyed the read! :)
    Hope you visited me during this past week, as I did a week long salute to Mothers Day!
    Have a Happy Weekend!
    Blessings, SUGAR